Things to Stop Saying to Yourself in 2020

AdeOla Crystiana Fadumiye
4 min readJan 14, 2020

“You spend so much time on your enemies instead of on me. Forget your enemies and focus on me.”

It was the statement the Holy Spirit whispered ever so gently to my heart one morning while I was letting the devil know under my breath that he had no place or say in my life. It was an enlightening statement, and one I don’t plan to forget.

I grew up partly in a church culture and era where binding, casting and rebuking the enemy was a thing. It is not unusual to have hour-long or all-night prayer marathon sessions focused on praying and stumping out the enemy. Each session is incomplete without jumping around and screaming at the top of the lungs to exhaustion, but I could never get into the physical and verbal theatrics or into the annoying repetition of phrases. So I spent a lot of the time praying under my breath while watching people symbolically knock their enemies out with a punch and a kick.

But the culture stayed with me. It didn’t necessarily consume me, but ever so often, I got caught up on the Enemy and my enemies. Constantly rebuking anything I didn’t want in lieu of acknowledging and redirecting my energy was a thing until that morning a few years ago. I had to learn to focus the bulk of my energy and mind on God and the blessings, instead of on the enemies and the haters. Cue Burna Boy’s “Anybody”“I don change my energy, I no get time for no enemy. Toripe wo n le tomi…”

This simple principle also applies to our mindset and speech.

How you think influences how you speak and how you move in the world; out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks and the power of life and death is in the tongue. It is certainly a cycle — we believe what we tell ourselves and we tell ourselves what we believe. For the most part, the cadence of our lives starts and ends with our mindset, what we speak into and over your lives, and what we allow others to speak over us. I say for the most part because we also live within structural systems that can make it impossible to move some mountains. It would be foolish and insensitive to propose that simply changing my speech and mindset is all I need to succeed. We all know that would be preposterous. We also need to do some work, whether it is to pull down structures of oppression, to take the class or to get…

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AdeOla Crystiana Fadumiye

Writer + Editor. Musings on Faith, Feminism & Entrepreneurship | My life’s broken pieces sprinkled w/ silver lining perspectives @ http://www.adeolafadumiye.com